Do you think that if someone truly loves you, they would cheat on you? Going further, if your partner truly trusted you or believed you both had an unconditional love, a very accepting love, do you think he would have kept his bisexuality a secret?
Healing is a process, one that may not happen overnight. And it’s hard. It’s hard to stare your pain in the face and relive your traumatic experience. It’s hard to think that the people you trusted, cherished and loved betrayed you.
People cheat because they cannot be honest with others, let alone themselves. And if you cannot truly be honest with yourself there is definitely no way that you can truly love yourself. And if you cannot love yourself, you cannot love anyone else. And people who cheat just do not have enough self-love to own their truths.
I don’t think we actually do. If you hate the one you are with, should you be with that person?
And I just want you to recognize that you and girls that have strained relationships with their mothers are two sides of the same coin. You are mourning the mother you never got to experience, and they are mourning the kind, loving and gentle mother they deserved.