Acknowledge and recognize that there is a bigger battle at play, and it isn’t between your parents and your boyfriend, it’s the battle that your parents both have internally. Self-hatred always projects itself unto others, remember that.
People lose themselves in relationships every day and it is always because they desire to be loved, but they never seem to come to the conclusion that all the love that they could ever truly need or want comes from within.
I am so sorry that you were not given loving parents who treat you the way you deserve to be treated. I am truly sorry that you will have to sacrifice your college years and grow up faster than you should have to, I really am. But, through this whole process, just stay positive and believe in yourself and I know that you will succeed.
There is nothing wrong with experimenting and figuring out who you are, but is it a necessity to label how you live your life?
Living for others and creating your life around the notion that doing what others think is best for you, rather than what you know to be true and best for yourself, is a recipe for disaster.