“What do you think of fairy tales?

Anonymous: I know this may sound stupid, but what do you think of fairy tales? I hate the motif of the damsel always being in distress and needing others, a man, to save her. We women are very capable of saving ourselves!

I enjoy fairy tales, but I do agree that the premise that women need to be saved, or that anyone needs saving from someone outside of themselves, is wrong. I believe that it’s our duty to save ourselves and that we have everything within ourselves to rectify and remedy wrongs and unhappy experiences.

But also, the concept that fairy tales and myths are fun, little stories with no greater significance is an ideology that I just do not buy. I believe there is a reason for everything, so there has to be a greater reason for why the same stories and myths are passed down from generation to generation. 

Tales such as Aesop’s fables, Bluebeard and Vasalisa all share the same components. They are usually told to children, they shed light upon a magical faraway land, and they contain imaginary beings who have to overcome significant challenges. 

But all of these stories, when one digs deep enough, allow us to glimpse far greater meanings. Bluebeard teaches us to hone our instincts, trust our instincts and to not settle for what is on the surface. And to look deeper and to see what is not being said.

It teaches us to recognize the naïve self, to grow from one’s naivety, to become a being who recognizes traps and snares set by others and one who protects his or her mind, body, and spirit from being captured. And the character Bluebeard represents the decimation of one’s soul and creativity if one is captured. 

And that capture could be taking a job for more money but hating what you do or living a life that society desires for you but one that won’t make you happy. Bluebeard teaches us to face the natural predator of the psyche, which has usually been conditioned by society, head-on.  

So again, I just don’t buy that fun, little bedtime stories aren’t more significant. Or that we women need someone to save us or protect us. For some reason, we discredit fairy tales and their deeper meanings not recognizing that they contain a lot of wisdom that we all can use in our everyday lives. 

So, I do enjoy fairy tales and myths, but I hate that they aren’t given the respect that they are due and I hate that instead of digging deeper, we only look at the face value, i.e. that women need to be protected by others, instead of seeing the deeper meanings. 

But, that’s life. Life and society teach us to view everything from a particular lens and we usually do it. But it’s up to us to put in the inner work to create a paradigm shift in what we believe is true for us and in how we view ourselves, the world, our experiences, and others. 

And I have to say, I am so very proud of you for questioning societal teachings and whether or not those ideologies work for you and your life. It’s always exciting and a little fearful to begin a new journey but I am proud of you for beginning your journey of decimating societal conditioning and for you forging your own path and thoughts through life. Keep up the good work and have fun along the way and remember, I’m always here!

Wishing you the best!