Who Would Want Someone No One Else Ever Wanted?

I HAVE SUPER ANXIETY BECAUSE OF MY PAST, AND I AM AFRAID TO ENTER INTO A RELATIONSHIP. MY FRIENDS KEEP ENCOURAGING ME TO DATE, BUT THERE’S NO ONE WHO WANTS ME. I WANT TO GO OUT, EXPLORE, AND MEET NEW PEOPLE, BUT THAT ISN’T AN OPTION. I LIVE IN A REALLY SMALL TOWN IN THE MIDDLE OF NOWHERE AND VOLUNTEER WORK AND GETTING A JOB IS NOT AN OPTION. AND PEOPLE DON’T LIKE ME, EVEN WHEN I’M SUPER NICE AND TRYING AND I DON’T THINK MY APPEARANCE IS THE ISSUE.

I HATE PUTTING ON MAKEUP, AND I LIKE TO READ ABOUT SPACE, STUDY PHYSICS, DRAW, AND PAINT. I’M AN INTROVERT AND I’M NOT A GIRL OF MANY WORDS, BUT GUYS SEEM TO BE INTERESTED IN MY MORE OUTGOING FRIENDS. ALSO, I’VE NEVER HAD SEX OR BEEN IN A RELATIONSHIP BEFORE, AND THAT SCARES PEOPLE BECAUSE I’M 17 AND SHOULD HAVE ALREADY EXPERIENCED THOSE MILESTONES. SO, WHO WOULD WANT SOMEONE NO ONE EVER EVEN WANTED?

You’re not alone! There are tons of girls in the world right now, feeling the same way you do and thinking the exact same thoughts that you are thinking. And no offense to any men reading this, but at that age, boys were SO STUPID! Like insanely so. So, don’t feel bad that they aren’t into you. They probably see that you’re a woman of worth who has her S*** together. And I am in no way saying that other women your age aren’t as together as you are, but guys can definitely tell if a woman knows her worth, knows her heart and her head, and from your post I can definitely tell that you do.

And there is nothing wrong with not wearing makeup. You are rocking the face God gave you and there is nothing wrong with that! And hello, you’re talking to the Queen of Introvert Nation, and I welcome thee to my court. There is nothing wrong with being introverted, it’s all about loving yourself and loving who you are. Don’t bend to societal pressure that wants to make you into something you’re not. And It’s okay to be into space, physics, and painting. Ultimately, always do what will make you the happiest!

And hello, you’re talking to a 23-year-old virgin, who is a virgin by choice. There is nothing wrong with having sex and there is nothing wrong with not having sex. Someone your age who has sex is not better than you and the fact that you haven’t had sex doesn’t make you better than them. And I guarantee you that you are wanted! But you can’t look for guys, especially guys your age, to validate you or your existence. You have to know that you are worthy, wanted and loved because you love you, you accept you and you see you for the beautiful amazing being that you are. Just don’t give up hope! Whenever you’re ready, that amazing first relationship will come around, so don’t rush it!


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