I’ve been through a lot in my life that most people haven’t. Therefore, I’m afraid to open up about my past cause my ‘luggage’ usually scares them off. How can I know when to release my ‘sad story info’ if they’re a part of my me, but at the same time I don’t want to be that weirdo that no one wants to get close to…
I am so sorry that you feel that your past and your “luggage” make you a burden onto others. Our pasts shape us into the human beings that we are and shape how we view ourselves, the world and others. Our past experiences, whether traumatic or good, are something we will always carry with us.
And don’t be afraid to open up about your past experiences. They helped shape you into the strong, immovable, loving being that you are today. And if someone can’t see that you are amazing, with or without your “luggage”, then they are definitely not for you. You’re looking for people that will accept all of you, the good, the bad, the ugly and the small parts of yourself that you may not even like.
When it comes to knowing when to tell others about your past, I would suggest doing it whenever you feel that the relationship is taking a turning point and getting deeper. But always do it whenever you’re the most comfortable. I know some people will tell others in the beginning and others will wait until they trust the person explicitly, before telling them about their past experiences. It just depends on you, how you feel and whether you think you are ready or not. But remember, we are never in charge of how others react or respond. Some people may accept you and your past and others may not. Just always love yourself, acknowledge where you’ve been and what you’ve been through and know that you are not defined by your experiences.